This topic is about someone who recently had an ileostomy and is experiencing rectal pain and urgency three weeks after the procedure. They are wondering if this is normal and are seeking advice on how to sit comfortably.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. Healing-time reassurance:
- It's common to feel rectal twinges, urges, and occasionally pass mucus or fluid as your body heals and your bowels adjust. The pain usually decreases over time.

2. Cushions and sitting surfaces:
- Consider using a "donut" cushion, which is a ring with a center hole, to relieve pressure from the sore area. Avoid sitting on hard chairs.
- Many people prefer not to use a donut cushion because it can spread the buttocks. Instead, try sitting on:
- A solid, one-piece foam pillow (avoid those with chopped foam).
- A plastic, 18-inch square air-filled cushion with about 16 individual air cells, which can often be found in pharmacy or home-health sections.

3. General tips:
- Avoid sitting on hard surfaces like wooden pews.
- Change your sitting position frequently and be gentle with the area as it heals.