I want to thank everyone who stood up against a hater that responded in a very nasty and ugly manner to a thread I posted seeking to connect with gay female ostomates. The thread has vanished, but I'm grateful to all who took a stand and made it clear what this board is here for and about.
txess
Jun 30, 2013 4:51 pm
monty
Jul 01, 2013 11:19 pm
People have hated since the beginning of time and still do. They hated the Irish, hunkies, blacks,
Mexicans, and on and on. That's their problem, not yours, so feel sorry for them. Times are changing
and change needs to be accepted to progress as a civilization, or we will always be in the dark ages. Live your own life and let others live theirs. We have no choice; it will change.
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Well, I hit the two year mark. I went back and read my posts from when I first found this site. I was very fortunate in that I stumbled upon it only 4 weeks post op. I have said many times that this community really saved me. The first 2 weeks after my surgery I shut down completely. It wasn't until about the 3rd week that my son came in to my room, flicked on the light and told me I was going to have to get back to living because I was scaring him. I had fallen into such a depression. He ticked me off, but it also made me stop and think- what was I going to do? Feel sorry for myself and sulk, or be grateful I was alive.
I've re-read my journals from that time and it was after my son kicked my butt, so to speak, I took an honest inventory and had to dig deeper than I've ever had to. I mean, I had survived a pretty nasty divorce, after a pretty crappy marriage and that was tough. But this was different. I felt like I was now a handicapped person who would be limited in their life and be looked at as a freak. My mental state was precarious, at best.
But then I found this site. I just lurked a bit before posting. I read so many of the other stories and I started to see just how full my life can be, I was not handicapped, and certainly not a freak! The stories of survival, the sense of humor, the support and compassion was inspiring. It was then I made myself get out of the dark, and get my sh*t together.
Not all rainbows and sunshine at first, hardly! But with grace from myself - to myself, and the kindness and willingness of the folks here to be supportive, non judgemental and openly share intimate details about their life circumstances, l not only survived but thrived.
I think of all the years I had suffered with such extreme pain, barely functioning, and the many hospital stays and how that is all behind me now. (All fingers, toes, and legs crossed that I never have to go near a hospital for myself ever again. I think I'd rather have a fork stuck in my eye. I loathe every about them.)
So, to everyone who has been a part of this journey with me, to say thank you is not enough. I'm forever grateful to know you all. My Angels, each one of you.
And as the Grateful Dead famously said,
"what a long strange trip it's been!"
Im so happy I'm tripping with you all.
gutenberg
Sep 14, 2013 3:13 pm
Hi txess, you're much too charitable, but we accept your thanks. However, I still think the administration went too far in removing the whole post, especially mine, because it was a challenge to come down on the ignorant poster. It took every bit of my imagination not to use language that would offend even more people. I guess bigotry is alive and well, yet. Ed
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WOUNDED DOE
Sep 14, 2013 5:16 pm
I am so sorry to hear this happened to you too, grrrr... It seems I missed another post as I have a lack of time on here, but never, never tolerate that bullcrap! We have no tolerance left for that kind of behavior in here
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. Glad to meet you and happy that you made this post! Never allow bullies or haters to rule anywhere, much less a very valuable meeting place like this one. We all need to hold each other up, share information, and connect... and support each other...
...and remember, the sweet, kind, sincere, and wonderful people who visit and post on this website far outnumber any troublemakers that try to seep in... they have no power here.
The vast majority of people on this site who read but don't post share our opinions of the haters and the bullies... they have sunk their own ship.
Take care and be well!
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Sep 14, 2013 8:51 pm
I found it quite offensive; and I am a surly & ignorant metal head.
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txess
Sep 18, 2013 7:27 pm
Guntenberg, I agree, I don't think admin should have deleted the thread; it was really a wonderful testament to the quality of people on this site! If anything, the responses were a great 'advertisement' for this site. Anyone reading would have been uplifted and impressed by the spirit of the people here.
Right on, Wounded Doe! You said it beautifully. I saw all of that in action.
Sinfulsot... *smiles for miles*