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Young gay guy with ostomy scared of future


Fri Feb 14, 2014 11:04 pm
"MeetAnOstoMate is the best website for people with an Ostomy. So much understanding. Everyone should join."
                                 
hometown wrote:
I know this is a guys site


I would disagree.
Sat May 10, 2014 1:22 am

dude...........at least your rectum is clean............

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Mon May 12, 2014 7:47 am

what's that s'posed to mean?

Tue May 20, 2014 11:14 pm

without getting into detail......i am assuming you do NOT eliminate thru your rectum/anus.

Was not meant as an insult.....sorry if i offended you


Thu May 22, 2014 8:23 am

No offense taken. i should have tried to embellish my sarcasm better 

Tue May 05, 2015 8:07 pm

hey there is an ostomy site for Gay and lesbians not sure i accidently found it but if you need guess google it :0 hope you find Mr right or some great friends as being single and unhappy sucks but being friendless is awful pleaswe take care the stoma is an issue for me but guess my mr right never know as i think i may have taken a message wrong or right good luck to all :)

Tue Jun 02, 2015 11:18 am

R.E.S.P.E.C.T
;)

Fri Jul 07, 2017 7:35 pm

How has life been since you posted thim. I'm curious because I felt the same way. I'm new to this. It's supposed to be temporary but nothing can prepare you just in case you don't have a reversal surgery. I feel insecure and can only image if I myself would date someone with a bag. I mean it would have to be something really special. 

Wed Jul 12, 2017 2:45 pm

I've had an ileostomy since 1976, I was 18 way back then

As a gay man, yes this is all scary with the emphasis on physical perfection in the gay community.

I've found going out to a bar with the intent of picking someone up, taking them home and then doing the nasty is likely going to be a recipe for a bad experience.

What worked for me was actually dating a fella and working up to the point where it seemed natural to make the big step.

My first longish relationship, 6 years, was with an exercise physiologist, and he didn't have a problem it.

The same with my next rely, which was also 6 years.

Now I and my partner are at the 20+ yeAr mark.

If you're not embarrassed by your physicality then your partner is likely not going to be embarrassed either.  At least that's been my experience.  The dating phases gives you a chance to scope out, - is this likely going to work, .....

Hope this is helpful

Let's face it.  This was a surgical procedure that saved our lives. From my vantage point the alternative to not having surgery did not look to attractive, I wanted to go off to college and begin a life where I did not feel like crap 24/7.

Hope this helps

Mike Q

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Tue Jun 28, 2022 5:29 pm

Hun I can truly relate although I am married to an amazing man for 23+yrs I very recently had ileostomy which comes with the bag and a huge stomach scar....My thoughts were omg I am a monster don't look tried to hide etc....my husband is my bag expert he cuts it and trims it he fits it he puts it on after my showers etc all without fear 😆 🤣....It will happen love is love bag and all....eventually you begin to realize you are still the same great guy just with a bag..... we are here for ya feel free to chat....

Tue Jun 28, 2022 5:29 pm

Hun I can truly relate although I am married to an amazing man for 23+yrs I very recently had ileostomy which comes with the bag and a huge stomach scar....My thoughts were omg I am a monster don't look tried to hide etc....my husband is my bag expert he cuts it and trims it he fits it he puts it on after my showers etc all without fear 😆 🤣....It will happen love is love bag and all....eventually you begin to realize you are still the same great guy just with a bag..... we are here for ya feel free to chat....

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