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Wed Oct 15, 2014 9:36 pm

 I am wondering how many men an women who are gay or bi sexual  are on this site ?

WAB
Thu Oct 16, 2014 6:43 am

I guess someone would have to count them all Joe......lol.......why do you want to know.? lol......It would be hard to do proabably ..............as they only indication is when you want to chat........willing to chat with.....?  which really is no indication.........like me I am willing to chat with anyone.........sleep with is another question ................lol..........good luck....

 

 

WAB
Thu Oct 16, 2014 10:56 am

Hi Joe.

I did a search...men looking for men and counted 150............women looking for women 22.............but maybe that is not right.............sounds way to off to me for the women and I am sure there are more women on here than men...my guess............anyhow just because they are looking.......lol  the men...it does not mean they are looking for a date................they could be looking for a golf partner............lol............. 

Fri Oct 24, 2014 4:06 pm

I had my butt sewed shut as part of my colostomy due to rectal cancer. How do gay men cope with the loss of being able to have anal sex?

 

 

Mon Oct 27, 2014 6:42 am

You just have to cope with it some how and live your life and keep busy

WAB
Mon Oct 27, 2014 7:48 am

lol....this one caught my attention...............and I wonder what transmission man meant by keeping busy......lol............one thing..not all gay men are in to anal sex..........some are either a top or a bottom..........lol........is an assumptionn the straight world makes that all gay men want anal sex.............

Mon Nov 17, 2014 9:32 pm

well anal sex is out so you need to fill your life with other things . ALLWAYS ABLE TO GIVE BLOW JOBS LOL

Thu Dec 04, 2014 3:08 am

What an intriguing man you are.  I am now just over one year since my surgery, and I am finding that life really is better with the colostomy than the quality of life I was experiencing without any rectal control due to the tumor.  I never thought it would get better, but it has.  I am travelling again, I am working a full schedule, and for the most part enjoying life except for one small thing...I haven't been able to go to the gym, which was my routine for years.  Naturally at age 59, without excercise, and without being able to bend much...I feel like a beached whale.  I see by your pics you look fit as a fiddle.  May I ask, what is your secret did you experience weight gain after your surgery?

Thanks for any advice you have.  I just have a very cool feeling about you as a person, and I didn't think you would mind me asking.   I have not wholly jumped into this site, so all I can do is post like this. Cheers

Lloyd

Tue Jun 16, 2015 9:05 pm
transmission man wrote:

well anal sex is out so you need to fill your life with other things . ALLWAYS ABLE TO GIVE BLOW JOBS LOL


I totally agree with you, because of CUCI they had to remove my colon, rectum and anus and I do enjoy having sex in different ways.

Thu Jul 09, 2015 10:39 am

Well, notheg else feels quite the same as anal sex.

Sat May 12, 2018 11:14 pm

Agreed.

 

Tue Jul 03, 2018 5:27 pm
Me too, cant find anyone in melbourne
Fri Aug 14, 2020 3:19 pm

I am new here. I guess you can add another to the gay list there lol.

Sun Sep 27, 2020 10:47 am

New here as well. Four weeks today after my surgery.

Sun Sep 27, 2020 5:52 pm

Hi. Glad to meet someone from New York. 

Tue Dec 08, 2020 11:48 pm
Saulostomy wrote:

Hi. Glad to meet someone from New York. 


Likewise and sorry for the late reply !

I just got back home from my reversal surgery. It went well.

Saulostomy, want to send me a PM?

-aa

Mon Dec 28, 2020 4:20 pm
NYC Banker wrote:

Heyy it's okay. I'm not a full member I can't send messages. If you have Instagram? 


Likewise and sorry for the late reply !

I just got back home from my reversal surgery. It went well.

Saulostomy, want to send me a PM?

-aa



Sun Jan 03, 2021 6:00 pm
macsac1 wrote:

I had my butt sewed shut as part of my colostomy due to rectal cancer. How do gay men cope with the loss of being able to have anal sex?

 

 


Hi Macsac1 I have had a stoma now since I was 27 and now early  40's they left a stump attached to my anus which it now seems to have the crohns in it not the actual removed bowel.

For years now my surgeon has been pushing me to have my anus removed and when I advised that I am gay and this is my sexual organ he was very unimpressed and quite rude

I then sort sexual psycological help in an attemot to try to become a top /active despite always being a btm / passive in a gay male relationship.

This did not change and further more due to the depression and mental health issues plus nerve damadge during surgery I am not able to always get an errection even with medication  which make the use of my anus even more important as its the only form of sexual pleasure I will get. 

I have read up that cancer survivers can have a procedure called Anterior Perineal Plane for ultra-low Anterior Resection which removes the rectum and replaced with some of their bowel and then reconnected removing the stoma.

Personally im not worried about reversal of the stoma and id keep it but the idea of having the rectum replaced to healthy bowel tissue which would allow me to have sex is a game changer for me. My only problem is this is seen as normal for cancer patients but not for crohns patients. I have also read up on human and equality rights as I am sure as a gay man I should not be assesed for this procedure as if I was a straight patient.

I totally get why you have asked this question as its not a case of just switching sexual positions would a straight man just go gay and have anal sex if he had his penis removed NO!

And I personal take the comment further down that said just find something else like blow jobs as not only offensive but a clear show of lack of intelligence and maturity maybe he should find something else like a bus to walk in front of as this is a real issue for people and should not be mocked by a insesitive idiot 

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