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Consideration Of Others

Posted by Angelicamarie

My question is, " do we have consideration of others?" Some, on this site, I must regetfully say, absolutely not! I say this because some of you have a problem with me blogging at the rate or frequency in which I do. I'm just simply trying to assist, uplift and to provide guidance or positive feed back for and to those who may need some assistance.  My intention have always and will continue to be  my thoughts, opinions and personal experiences . And or to share my insights. Isn't that what this site is about? 

Meaning, shouldn't we all be sharing our thoughts ideas and opinions in a positive way instead of just sitting on the side lines and criticizing those of us who reach out to you and others on this site to share our life experiences, along with  the knowledge, skills and abilities that we all posses. We ostamates should be ready willing and able to share our valueable time and personal experience amongst ourselves.

Perhaps if you would stop talking negative about those of us who actively try to keep this site a prime site or choice to fulfill our needs, we would all be better off for it. For those of you who are and continue to do so, I suggest that you use that energy on something positive, you just might feel better ! How can we make the site successful? We certaintly can't do it with  intolerance of others or one another! Without this site some of us wouldn't have an outlet due to inability to leave our homes or other existing situations. This site could and may very well be our only oulet. Truly we can do better towards one another.

 Lastly, what about respect, to get it, you have to give it. It's not one sided.  If you don't give it what makes you think you derserve it?  Yes, there are times when we we don't feel good about ourselves or just simply don't feel good health wise. However,  that doesn't justify or give you a reason to be ugly to others or your fellow ostamates. We are here to support one another, not signify! No one is better than the other. Have some consideration and sensitivity toward others. Live your life through yourselves and not through others. Of course show some love for others! We are all very important peoples, at least I am and you are too! Live your life and always consider others when you express yourself.

Thanks again for taking your valualable time to read my consideration.

Angelicamarie

Comments:
Bill : Hello Angelicamarie.
Thank you for another interesting topic along with your own take on the subject.
Perhaps I missed some posts because I cannot think that I read any that were saying or implying that you were writing too much or that what write was not interesting or relevant. That aside, there are always going to be critics when people bother to put their writing on public display and it is down to the writer to either ignore them or become embroiled in a somewhat pointless discussion about who is right and who is wrong in what they do. I have shared in the past my criteria for entering into conversations and it has stood me in good stead over the years.
Best wishes
Bill
Angelicamarie : G'morning Bill? No it wasn't written it was something that was said, not truly in that nature , but it was meant like that!!! How right you are
There will always be critics! But also when you put yourself out there you have good and bad! I will stop when I'm ready nor do I claim to know everything I'm just a regular trying to help ,not a veteran like yourself!! Thanks for the comments! angelicamarie
Angelicamarie : Bill I thought about your comments, haven't been at it as long as u, it
Is best to ignore it's not worth the energy , thanks bill!! Have a great day! Angelicamarie
Bill : Hello Angelicamarie.
There are a number of reasons why I would not enter into a discussion/ conversation with critics (unless I fancied a pointless argument).
The first is that people are quite rightly self-opinionated and they have every right to be this way. Unfortunately, many of them will never change their opinions, no matter what is said that runs counter to their views - so what's the point in conversational engagement unless it is for the experience of argumentative interaction?
The second reason for not entering into oppositional discussion with critics, is that by doing so, we become critics of the critics, which makes us behave as they have been behaving. Again, what's the point?
My third reason for non-engagement, (which I sometimes ignore) is that 'I' am my own most voracious critic; Thus, I have never met anyone yet who can criticise my work more than I do myself. So in essence, I agree with many of the nastier things that are said about my writing and I don't really need anyone else to point these things out to me.
My last point would be linked with the above, in that I am very sensitised to all forms of bullying. ( I have written several books on the subject) I view negatively criticising others as a form of bullying; Trying to bully them back, means playing the same game as them, which means that there are no winners.
A guy called Eric Byrne had it summed up fairly neatly in his book 'Games people Play', when he wrote that 'games are essentially 'dishonest' and the most effective way to deal with them is to expose them for what they are, rather than engage in the game itself.

I hope that this proves helpful to you in your own deliberations about critics.
Best wishes
Bill
scorsby : Fancy remembering Byrne's book. That's an old one, but absolutely correct.

Keep blogging for me.

John
Angelicamarie : Hello John thanks for responding, however I never read Byrne's book! But Thanks for sharing! Angelicamarie
Bill : Hello scorsby.
There is a saying amongst comedians "The old ones are often the best!" and it applies just as well to writers.
Humans are still 'playing games' and being deceitful in many different ways so it is helpful when writers like Byrne have insights into how to defend against this sort of behaviour. Another book of the same era that sits in pride of place on my bookshelf is 'Straight and Crooked Thinking' by Thouless. Between them and DeBono, they have had quite an influence on how I have helped people (including myself) THINK about their sometimes troublesome relationships with others.
Best wishes
Bill
scorsby : Hi.
Byrne is worth a read.
Try ' I'm OK your OK '
Both excellent and worth your time.
John
Angelicamarie : G'morning John, will do!! Thanks angelicamarie
iMacG5 : Hey Angel, always a pleasure to read your thoughts. Sorry you got some critical comments regarding your contributions. I consider all your writings contributions because youre taking time, expending energy, thinking, which some of us rarely do, and sharing that energy with us. Admittedly, I dont read everything you offer because sometimes theres just too much other stuff Im involved in. But I enjoy your writing, appreciate your thoughts and opinions and feel like were not too different. Im happy to be your friend and disappointed anyone would be critical of your efforts. Youre a kind, caring, compassionate person and I thinks some folks could learn some meaningful lessons about living, loving and making the best of our everyday lives alone and with others.
Dont ever change who you are!
Respectfully,
Mike
Angelicamarie : Hello mike, thanks so much for your comments,yes I too consider u my friend!you have said the kindness things it was well appreciated!!
Have a wonderful evening! Angel
KatieWithColitis : I'm sorry that you've been getting criticism! I really appreciate your posts and get a lot out of them. Thanks for writing so often and for sharing your insights with the community.
Angelicamarie : Hello Kate, thanks for responding, and definetly I think you for you comments!! I m glad I touched someone that's what it's all about support. Kate have a great evening angel
LadyHope : Thank you for the wonderful post! It is very much appreciated. Have a great week. Sincerely, LH
Angelicamarie : LadyHope, thanks for responding appreciate your kind words!! Angel