How To Tell Someone About Your Ostomy

I am a 37 year old, single mom of 3 and I am a colorectal cancer survivor going on 3 years now. I am dating and find it very difficult and stressful to try to tell someone I want to be intimate with, that I have an ostomy.  How do you tell someone? I would also like to know how can I  hide or keep my bag from getting in the way during intimacy. I am so worried that I will never find someone who...

I am a widow--i have been talking to a fantastick guy online he is perfect, he wants to meet me--do I tell him I have an ileostomy before or after we meet face to face??I do not want o loose him at this point.Could some men tell me how they would like to learn this before or after face to face??Thanks

I'll show you mine, if you show me yours!   A picture saves a thousand words.  Maybe you could post some of your stoma names under a picture in your profile. Or if you are having a hernia problem and question you could enclose a snapshot.  I know as a newbie I have never seen a stoma with a hernia and wouldn't know one if I had one.  Or when an skin irritation requires medical attention and not...

i know this subject has been talked about on several blogs but now it has happened to me and i need you to help.i met a very nice guy. lives about 30 minutes from me. we had a wonderful meeting and both left with phone calls and plans for him to come here for dinner.  now the big question ( i know this subject has been asked before)  should i meet him again or wait til he comes for dinner to te...

Hi there, I need some advice please...I've been going to my local nightclub for 5 years, I guy who's also gone there all that time (and longer apparently) is suddenly showing an interest in me. He's very shy, quiet and hardly talks to anyone but his close mate, they're both bachelors, it was my new 'hairdo' (my wig since hair loss due to low dose chemo for my crohn's) that did it, they were lig...

I've been advised I don't wait long enough. I've also been toldI was a "time waster" for waiting too long to mention it. Also, how do people approach showers for the first time with a lover...or feeling confident enough to feel accepted walking around in our birthday suit in front of them knowing they will still see us as 'sexy' with nothing on?

  This was a reply to a fellow osto-mate but I felt if I posted it I might get more answers that might benefit me and give me some perspective. Has anyone or everyone else been here and it Does get better? I had a collapsed and damaged J-pouch lying on my pelvic floor. No dr or surgeon took me seriously and the yrs and yrs of my digestive dysfunction caused heavy damage to my entire system. It...

Hello, I found this site via Twitter this morning. Figured I'd post to see if anyone would be willing to connect and let me pepper them with a bunch of questions. I'll probably have to put up a second topic to get all of what I'm looking for since my story is a bit unusual. I was born premature so don't have any eyesight, and also had an ileostomy throughout my entire childhood. I have since ...