Dating with an ostomy can bring up unique questions and concerns, especially when it comes to deciding how, when, and what to disclose to potential partners. Here’s a look at some helpful advice and insights for navigating the dating world with confidence:

1. The right person will not be bothered by your ostomy. Focus on those who make time for you, show genuine interest, and treat you with kindness and respect.

2. Rejection is a normal part of dating, whether you have an ostomy or not. Try to accept it as part of the journey and keep a sense of humor about the process.

3. Share your story when you feel comfortable, especially if you think a partner might see you naked. Remember, it’s your information to share on your terms.

4. Consider products that can help increase comfort and discretion during intimate moments:
- Ostomy Secrets offers underwear and lingerie designed for ostomates, along with blog posts on intimacy.
- Some suppliers provide cap systems that attach to your wafer with a very small pouch for minimal bulk.
- Coloplast SenSura Mio pouches can be clipped higher after closure to appear shorter and flatter.

5. Keep general dating safety in mind:
- Be cautious of red flags like requests for money or overly intrusive questions.
- Look for genuine interest through consistent communication and effort from your partner.

6. Maintain a positive personal mindset:
- Keep humor in your life and view dating as meeting “frogs” until you find your match.
- Stay confident in yourself: “I am who I am—if you don’t like me, move on.”
- Prioritize self-care and continue living your life fully; remember, the ostomy is just one part of who you are.