I have to say, I wasn't expecting what was going to happen to my sex life after this surgery. It was a botched surgery, and I ended up with a permanent ileostomy. Prior to surgery, the wife and I were having sex sometimes twice a day. Now, I'm lucky if it's twice in a year. It didn't help matters that my wife had a hysterectomy (not the best speller). I'm wondering if there are other people experiencing the same problem. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife, but I'm tired of being alone in this area. We have no intimacy, and I'm scared that this is going to be the norm for the rest of my life. I'm a hopeless romantic and a gentleman, but I'm scared I'm going to stray. Recently, I have been getting hit on by younger women, and it's actually has me thinking that maybe it wouldn't be so bad to have an affair. I really don't need it for the sex but for the intimacy of being close to a woman. For the last 5 years, it has only been about once a year, and that's only if she's had a few. I'm tired and scared because I love my wife, but this kind of life is not what I signed up for in my aging years. Is there anyone else in the same kind of predicament out there? I'm sorry, but I needed to vent somewhere so I'm not judged too severely. Thanks. John.
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