Hello PVassarFan 10.
What mortified me was when I got into difficulties whilst visiting my local hospital. I went into the toilet to clean up and it was hopeless for my needs.
I explained and asked the nurses where I could clean up and they directed me to the basement where there was a sluice for cleaning up soiled bed linen. There was not privacy as it was just a laundry area and by that time I just couldn't care less so I stripped of and washed my clothes anyway. You would think that in a HOSPITAL that actually performed these operations, that there would be suitable toiletting facilities. after that incident I went roud all the toilet areas to see if anything would be more suitable than the sluice. What I found(or did niot find) really shocked me as even the disabled loos were not designed with us in mind. Okay if you have difficulty getting on and off the loo; okay if you are a mother with child; okay in some of them if you are in a wheelchair. But nothing very helpful if you need to clean up after a stoma disaster.
It looks as if we will always need to be self-reliant in these situations.