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Re: Hello

Posted by Jackiee, on Mon Dec 05, 2016 5:21 am


I hsve just come out of a 20 yr relationship,  I had my Ileostomy 10 yr ago that made no difference to my partner.  Now I need to know answers to the same question you are asking but  are we not going to be biased.  I don't think it would make a difference to me if a guy had a bag on but as I have one its easy fir me to say that.  The fact is we have these now and have to get on with life positively. All I know is I don't want to be alone.  I am enjoying  it at the  moment and getting plenty  of attention but not responding as feel like I have to hold bk.  Al do when do you tell someone  you have a bag on? When you get to know them? It's a hard one. 

Hope  your recovery  goes well.



Reply by Eaglespirit, on Tue Dec 06, 2016 6:02 pm

Follow your will not fail you....



Reply by Jackiee, on Wed Dec 07, 2016 2:28 am


Yes your  probably  right.


Reply by Eaglespirit, on Wed Dec 07, 2016 2:46 am

Believe it J, believe it. You sound like a lovely human being wanting the best for yourself.....stay with what and who you envision for yourself and it and he will come to you,



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Reply by Past Member, on Tue Dec 27, 2016 10:07 pm

I would just see how things go.

If a great friendship developed and yoy think it might

move forward beyond that it would be worth thinking about timing  to bring the subject up.

To the right guy it won't matter




Reply by Jackiee, on Wed Dec 28, 2016 3:43 am

Thank you for these kind words. I know  there is a lot of kind considerate people  out there. 


Reply by Mrs.A, on Fri Dec 30, 2016 10:55 pm

Hi Jackiee,

Welcome to the forum. I have read this question many times here. It seems many ostomates wonder the same thing, but everyone has their own ideas about what is best to do. The truth is it is an individul decision, no one can really give the best answer for each person. Relationships are special and only those in the relationship know how they feel about the other. We each have to learn when the time is right for ourselves.

I believe you will know when the time is right in each relationship you have with everyone you feel you need to tell.

Best Wishes

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