I think you're absolutely right... it's as though they think we're complaining about nothing more than a stomach ache!! I'm still very new to an ostomy, but I started right out the gate with an ileus. I have an ileostomy with the colon left intact, simply bypassed. I also have a loop ileostomy which is turning out to be a reall pain in the ... gut! From the very beginning it was established that I won't be a candidate to have a j-pouch or reconnect. I DO believe you're absolutely right that scar tissue and adhesions cause a lot of obstruction symptoms as well as the ultimate cause.
I'm really surprised though that you're having the same issue in Canada as we do in the USA. The last time I was in the ER, the wait was over 6 hours. Even though the pain was horible and I couldn't hold anything down --> it was very obvious that I was in pain. Once I got past the wait, they immediately established that I needed to be admitted... and get this I was told I shouldn't wait so long in such pain and vomiting.
I also agree with your last post... I was really hoping the "chat" would be more active. I don't know about you, but sometimes I just want to be able to talk to someone that understands. Unfortunately, I don't think my husband believes how badly I feel at times. He even told me it's my problem and he would never agree to this kind of surgery. He said he'd just rather take a bullet in the head... I asked if he thought that's what I should have done?
I hope you're feeling better and able to get answers when you need them.