M9 spray and drops. Spray for the room and drops for the bag. No smell, no problem.
xnine
Sep 16, 2025 12:17 pm
Fdschles
Sep 16, 2025 10:33 pm
Your MIL sounds like a beaut. My mom always told me to 'consider the source' whenever anyone said things that I found disturbing. Sound advice that I continue to live by. Go enjoy the family gathering and don't let an ignorant woman spoil your time!
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k9rulz
Sep 18, 2025 4:59 am
I agree with Susan on this point. Everybody poops, so you're no different than everyone else, except you get to do it nicely into a bag 🤣 💩🚽. Bring some small baggies like they give you in your ostomy box if you need to change out your bag so you can dispose of it, tie it off, and not stink up the bathroom. Otherwise, everything else is emptied into the toilet like everyone else does, and you flush it. 🤷🏽 It seems like a MIL problem, not a you problem, to me? Also, it's rude how she treated you like that, in my opinion. You have enough sh*t going on (pun intended) that it's pretty insensitive of her to do that to you, given what you're going through.
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Jane doe
Sep 18, 2025 9:17 pm
You are right, Ben! Mine hardly has an odor unless I eat onions or a few other things. I forgot how bad normal poo does smell! Until my husband goes!!!! 😅
Sep 18, 2025 11:13 pm
This is my exact thought process. Shame on her as you navigate this that she brings this up to you. Rude.
You don't smell. She needs to do research.
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Sep 21, 2025 1:56 am
Hi there! I read your concern about your family reunion and your MIL. I've had an ostomy since 1965, and I have some simple tips. 1. The day before, don't eat any foods that have a foul odor: onion, provolone cheese, fish, anything that might be smelly. 2. When I empty, I flush as soon as the pouch is empty. 3. After I clean the pouch, I use the M9 deodorant every time I empty. I've tried others, but M9 seems to work best for me. 4. Buy the small, inexpensive bottle of perfume from Walmart; they are $3.99 here. It is the only thing that seems to cover the smell of the pouch. 5. The most important info: enjoy life, don't live around the ostomy; it's part of you, just live. It will be okay.