I found a man who appeared to really like me and before meeting him I told him about my ileostomy. He proceeded to chew me out and say that no one is going to want to make love to someone with a shitbag next to them. He said I should take my profile off the dating site because I was líeing to people by not posting my condition. Before meeting anyone I have always written to them ahead of time to let about my condition and explain what happened to me.
I had a surprising diagnosis in September of colon cancer. I had surgery October 7th and it was all removed and I am cancer free but during the surgery the bowel leaked into the rest of my body. The bowel contents are full of bacteria not all of them the kind that should be floating around in the rest of your body. This was a surgery that was supposed to take three to four days and then your home in my case I had two more surgeries and nearly died two or three times and had code blues called I was in ICU more than I would like to even remember and fortunately I remember very little my stay in the hospital ended up being 50 days and then 10 more days in a rehab hospital learning to walk again as I was so weak. Felt so long on my back that my muscle loss was so significant that I could not even stand on assisted. In all I had three surgeries and acute respiratory failure total sepsis, heart failure and on and on. Your poop does not belong in your body That's why it goes in and then out. I have heard of this leaking happening to other people and I don't know how common it is but in the end I survived but ended up with hopefully a temporary ileostomy. Why am I telling you this? Because one man on POF. Said I should pull my name off the site and or disclose my condition. So I'm just closing it and I don't want to be alone my whole life I'm also hopeful that they can reconnect it successfully and that during the reconnection that it doesn't leak. I don't think my body could survive that again. So I have a little bag on the side of my body that I have to change five six times a day and empty it. How does sex work I know that there is a website that I've been reading for ostimates. It's for people with ostomies and there are many different kinds there is a colostomy and an ileostomy and a few others. I would suggest you Google it and see if you're still interested in me and if not you don't have to write me back and tell me I shouldn't be on this site. I'm hoping there's someone out there who can put up with a little inconvenience. I know now that people do have sex and relationships and they don't go and bury their head in the sand for the rest of their lives. Thanks for taking the time to read this. All my best Merijane
Have others had this leaking problem after the surgery and ended up with an ileostomy? Is this frequent or is it malpractice when it happens. I frequently have leaking from the bag during the day which I can deal with but at night it makes my bed a mess and I have to stop and change the bag and change all the sheets. What do you do about that? I was wearing diapers but not even that kept the mess away do I buy plastic panties to put over the bags so when it leaks I don't have such a mess? Is this too many questions? I'm feeling quite down tonight after that gentleman told me it was unfortunate for you and it was not your fault but you need to disclose this up front before seeing someone which I do that's how he found out about it. But he felt I should have told him sooner and that I should put it on the blog. Well I don't think my profile would look very good with that sticking in there. I have a lot to offer a man with or without a bag what do you all think I should do