This topic is about a young person navigating the world of dating after having ostomy surgery. They share their struggles with feeling confident and relaxed when meeting new people, especially when the other person doesn't know about their ostomy bag. Despite mostly positive experiences, there's a lingering worry about negative reactions and the fear that the ostomy might be a reason for someone losing interest. However, they remain optimistic, viewing the ostomy as a way to filter out superficial people. Here are some pieces of advice and insights shared by others:

1. Be up-front early:
- Many have found that being honest with a new partner from the start can save time and help identify who is genuinely worth your time.
- Those who truly care will stick around, while others can be let go without regret.

2. Confidence and attitude:
- Remember that the ostomy bag saved your life, and anyone who can't accept it is missing out.
- Consider yourself a catch, and believe that partners are fortunate to have your attention.

3. Cover-up options for intimacy:
- Tuxedo cummerbunds in various colors can discreetly hide a pouch.
- Skin-tone stretch wraps are available for both men and women.
- Corsets, waist-cinchers, maternity belly bands, small tube-tops, and garter belts/stockings can keep the pouch secure and out of sight.
- A dimly lit room can also help if the encounter is casual.

4. Suppliers and links:
- Stretch/waist wraps can be found at Stomawear (UK).
- Generic options like "boob tubes" or off-the-rack cummerbunds work well.
- Stoma caps are available, though they may not be suitable for those with active Crohn’s disease.

5. Irrigation (for suitable colostomies):
- Regular irrigation can keep the bag empty for predictable periods, reducing anxiety. Consult your WOC/ET nurse to see if this is an option for you.

6. Look within the ostomy community:
- Dating another ostomate can eliminate the need for explanations and fear of rejection.
- Local ostomy support groups or online forums can be great places to meet others in similar situations.

7. Broaden the dating pool:
- People who have faced serious health issues or those who are legally blind may be more understanding and accepting of an ostomy.
- Consider volunteering or attending interest-based gatherings instead of typical bar or club scenes.

8. Real-life success stories:
- Many people have found love, whether through long marriages, engagements, or new romances, with partners who accept them completely.
- One person even met their future spouse through an online site, thanks to their ostomy.

9. Mind, body, and sexuality:
- Practices like tantric sex can help shift focus away from appearance.
- Remember, most people carry around waste in their bodies, so you might actually be cleaner!

10. Humor and support:
- Use the ostomy as a way to filter out shallow dates.
- When feeling down, return to supportive forums for honest discussions and practical advice. Members are always ready to offer empathy and solutions.