I've had my stoma 7 years now. In that time, my confidence has plummeted to non existent. I have gained weight and hate everything about my body, especially my stoma. Prior to surgery My partner of 22 years told me honestly, he wasn't sure if he could be intimate with me afterwards. To this day he has never seen it, with or without "the bag". To begin with I wore "customised knickers". Now intimacy just doesn't occur at all. I am ashamed & embarrassed by my body and he is, for want of a better word - repulsed. Does anyone else feel their stoma has actually ruined their life, not saved it?? I would have my stoma reversed tomorrow if it was an option even despite all the risks. Is anyone else going through something similar?
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