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Posted by Past Member, on Wed Jul 08, 2015 9:00 am

Hi everyone, I still can't figure out how to wear pants. If I wear them too low it pushes up on the adhesive when I sit and loosens the base. If I wear them just above my ostomy bag they pull down on the stoma and I get blisters at the base of my stoma. Can anyone explain to me how they deal with wearing pants? If the pants are too tight then how does the stool make it to the bottom of the bag. I feel as if I need to  bring back the MC Hammer parachute pants.LOL Even sweats that are too bulky weigh on it and aggravate my stoma.

Winter will be here before we know it and I would like to be prepared for it.  I have heard of maternity pants that work pretty good, but I can't seem to wrap my head around this yet. I am still in a phase of acceptance and adjustment. I come from the beach area and when I was young hardly ever wore pants. Midi skirts were my thing. Maybe I will have to go back to this style, but then there is the issue of the weight of the skirt above the stoma. Do most of us wear the bag on the outside of our pants/skirts? In the pictures I can't tell unless the shirt is tucked in. Even this makes me think how lucky that person is being able to conceal their bag. Ah! the little things in life.

P.S. I am 11 weeks post op and have a right sided ileostoymy just below the belly button level. Do people have their stoma moved to a different area for comfort? It seems like a hell of a thing to go thru just to wear clothes that fit. Anyway, any insight would be great.

Thanks to everyone, this site has truly helped. I am so greatful to everyone here.

Reply by jd.66635, on Wed Jul 08, 2015 9:31 am

this might not help,but i wear trouser which are bigger than i need and wear braces (suspenders,if american).my trouser hang loose with plenty of  room for my bag.then wear a loose top over the braces if you want to cover them up.hope it helps cool

Reply by ron in mich, on Wed Jul 08, 2015 11:56 am

hi Nagual i,ve had my ileo. for about 30yrs. and pretty much always wore elastic waist exercise pants from Nike or addidas, but i think the problem might be that your surgery was recent and the skin under your wafer is getting irritated, i wear the waist band right across the top of the wafer and it squeezes in not down.  good luck hope you find something to work for you.

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Reply by Past Member, on Wed Jul 08, 2015 5:58 pm

Since my colostomy 4 years ago, I tend to wear a lot of yoga pants, skirts and dresses and then change into loose pj pants when I get home.  Dress pants have to be a size larger than normal.  Anything with pockets or needing a belt can interfere with my appliance.  I've heard of wearing maternity pants but haven't tried that yet.  Maybe try a pair on the next time you go shopping and see how it feels.  I do wear longer tops, jackets and cardigans to cover any bulges/lines.  Unfortunately it is a lot of trial and error with what you will feel comfortable wearing and what won't aggravate your appliance.  Perhaps it is the pouch and wafer itself that is causing the problem?

Reply by LadyHope, on Thu Jul 09, 2015 10:52 am

Hi Nagual,  Yes, pants were a little bit of a challenge especially in the beginning for me.  What I found is I needed a support underwear... and something, in my opinion, that did not look frumpy.  I found a gem in Walmart.  If there is one near you, they sell boyshorts that are highwaisted which smooth out the appliance and supports the entire appliance.  I really like them and they come in a variety of colors.  The pricepoint is great too...under $5 per pair.  There are special made ostomy underwear out there but were too bulky for my liking but I friend of mine swears by them.  My stoma is also pretty much in the same area as yours....

For pants, I wear most anything but am cautious of my stoma.  Stanley, as I named it, sticks out about 1inch so I don't want to rub it too much because it will bleed.  The pants that I wear are mostly higher waisted but for me, am long waisted so most things come to my hip area.  The underwear helps with the weird feeling on my stomach with the appliance and stoma.  I bought lovely highwaisted leggings from a local department store, I have a few high waisted stretchy capris for causal and I wear a lot of summer dresses and skirts.  My cotton capris rest just above my stoma, not the appliance.  If they are draw string, I tie them loose not to restrict.  I sometime have pancaking but keep aware of it when I am sitting down.  If I find something I like in the store, I will keep the size and relocate the button to accomodate the stoma. 

With bathing suits, I wear a two piece tankini.  Again the bottoms are highwaisted which come just below my belly button.  I also wear darker colors that help conceal the pouch. Hope this helps.  Take care and keep posting.  Have a nice day.  LH  

Reply by moonshine, on Thu Jul 09, 2015 10:53 pm

i wear my ileostomy bag thru my thong.....there is a spot between my thighs that my bag rests............but i empty my bag every hour if needed


Reply by Immarsh, on Fri Jul 10, 2015 6:37 pm

Hi  Nagual

My name is Marsha, and I just read your post about pants/  and then I read your profile.     I try to have a positive outlook on life, but somehow, drama ( in the way of family illness, my ex husband, me & my two sons)  seemed to find us.  But i've thrived and endured, and still stop to smell those roses.

 Although I'm about 10 years older than you are, I've had my ileostomy for more than 50 years, since I was 15.  But my problems with clothes ( shirtwaist dresses of the 1950's ) started long before I had my ostomy.  That just added to the "issue".  Smile

I came to understand why women ( in particular) have difficulty with body image.  I think I spent my childhood hearing my mother say, pull your dress down.  Sigh.  Seems my waist was about 2 inches lower, than any size clothes I wore.   So the waist line on dresses never came down to "my" waist, and the waistline on pants/ jeans ( in the  60's) were always too high.  I was grateful for "hip huggers", which seemed to fit perfectly at the dent that is/ was my  waist.  I was also in a backbrace for a time, which made my waistline really disappear!     The years passed, i had children,  gained weight, and nothing ever seemed to fit "right".  I was way into my 20's before I discovered the genius of "dressmakers/ tailoring, and eventually I learned to sew, ( to save money really).   But I digress...

Here are some of the things I learned...

Do as Ladyhope suggested, and find a good pair /brand of ( not frumpy) stretch panty.  I discovered boy shorts recently, but they didn't really fit my "body type" around the leg, and don't hold the pouch in at the bottom.    "Jockey" has some really nice ones....and although they don't have enough support ( for my belly) they do hold the pouch close to the skin. Walmart. and low end, discount department stores,  are all good places to try. Even places like Target.   Seek and  you shal my motto.  Once you've found the right support panty, you'll be better able to get a good fit on clothes, especially pants. 

Zippered dress pants have always been a problem for me, because of the waisteline.  I've resorted to having the zipper removed, cut down the top,  and make a "pull on pair of pants.   A soft fabric shouldn't hurt the stoma, even if it's at the top of the wafer. Use extra tope, so the wafer can't be pulled off.   Jeans have been more of an issue.   I wouldn't want the heavy fabric binding the wafer.   Hip Huggers for you, might come too low, so again, it's trial and error.  Frustrating....if it's not what you're use to....but it's what I've had to face all my life. 

I've also resorted to "pull on" elastic waistline pants, because I could alter them myself.   Pull-ons  use to be polyester "old people" clothes,  or so I thought, until they began to make jeans, denim, & twill  with elastic waistbands.   I was thrilled.  To this day,  When I find something that fits, I buy it in every color.  

If you've been one  of the lucky people, who was able to put on a pair of pants in the store...and they fit,  then this must seem like a real challenge now.  It will take some doing, but you'll figure it out.

  I have a friend  ( who also has an ostomy for more than 50) years, and although she has a beautiful, tall, long legged, slim body....she "hates" her body, because she could never wear a "neat little bikini".   But she can wear short shorts, and a bikini top.   I don't get it....   and I've vowed never to be like her. 

Stay in touch...and "post" when you have news to share, or to vent....  

Best regards,




Reply by anesthesia gal, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 10:54 am

Hi...I understand your discomfort and concern.  I have gone to wearing wide/elastic band pants. and much as I hate to...but found them to be very comfortable and accommodating.  I buy them online, Jag Jeans...pull on...they are great.  Hope this helps.

Reply by Bosco, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 11:11 am

Nagua:  Check out the items made by Comfizz.  I live in the USA but order them from Great Britain and I never go without.  I slip them on over my stoma/pouch and can wear most of my regular jeans, slacks etc.  I only wear elastic waiste "jogging pants" or pajama pants at home at night.  In public, I always wear one of the Comfizz products.  I attribute to them my ability (psychologically/emotionally) to continue to work, speak in front of groups, socialize....  They have been life saving for me.  AND, no, I do not work for them!  I learned about them on this website after colostomy in 2009 and am a very satisfied customer.


Reply by Lokismum, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 11:18 am

My ostomy was done at the beginning of Feb this year, so am learning as well.  I have found that for underwear, Jockey full briefs work well because they are high-waisted so don't interfere with my ileostomy.  For pants, I have discovered Kim & Co relaxed fit pants.  You should get them in your normal size - they are very accomodating for an ostomy and are nice and high waisted with a very comfortable waistband.  I am in love with these pants.  Am too nervous to wear anything that isn't loose because I am afraid the stool won't drop down in the bag.  Kim & Co can be bought either form their own web-site or from the Shopping Channel (Canadian).  They are based in Montreal, so are a Canadian compayny.

Reply by nbaker, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 11:32 am

Hi, your surgery was pretty recent, at just three months out you are still healing, things are still tender.  For now I would wear any pants that stretch, might help to buy up one size for now until things are not so tender for you.  I live in jeans, I work at home so do not have to dress up to go to the office, I just roll out of bed, down the stairs into my office chair!!  Unfortunately I have had to switch from my favorite type of jeans with a zipper, to what I used to call "old lady pants", elastic waist stretch denim or in winter time sweat pants (never ever wore sweat pants before).  I had three surgeries within two weeks time so I have much scarring on my abdomen and now have two incisional hernias so my bikini days are long gone.  I have had my ostomy (colostomy) for 3.5 years now.  If you use a system that you can empty without a filter on it, it might be a good thing for you to leave a little bit of air in the bag so that it provides a space around the stoma, this will allow the stool to drop down and keep pressure from your clothing off the stoma.  Having a stoma is definitely something that takes time to adjust to. I found it very helpful to go onto Youtube and watch videos that people with stomas share, how they deal with different situations, such as bathing suits, bikinis.  You might find them useful.  This site has also been a tremendous help.  Just throw out a question and you can usually count on getting some really good advice.   

Reply by Ewesful, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 11:54 am

I fought this problem for months until the nurse told me about the stretchy pocket bands.  They are about 7 inches high. You slip it on like underpants, put the base of the bag inside the pocket (There are 2 pockets so you can use the one you need) The remainder of the band comes up over and hides everything - also makes you look flatter but lets the bag do it's job    I bought one and went back and got 2 more -- love them -   Ostomysecrets. They wear forever and in different colors/sizes.



Reply by wend, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 1:06 pm

Hi nagual,  ive had my stoma for over 5 years now, and wear tight jeans, normal pretty small knickers,

i do help the stools dowm a bit now an then, and my stoma is flat, but havnt changed what i wear at all.

all the best, wendyx

Reply by snowy100, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 1:44 pm

I have a  urostomy bag and always have pant issues.  I try to find jeans with a little streatch in them.  The jeans make me feel a little more confident that everything stays were it should.  At 68 years old I really don't want to look my age either.  The best thing is to experiement with different styles and you will find what your confident with.  Good Luck.....snowy100

Reply by Snookis Mum, on Tue Jul 14, 2015 3:24 pm

Hi Nagual

My stoma (Snooki) is just over 4 years old. I have found that the absolute best jeans are Earl Jeans because they are stretchy and have a bigger than usual waist, so they fit nicely over my bag. I also wear Jockey bikinis, which rest just under the stoma, and are very comfortable. If you can't find Earl Jeans, you could try Gloria Vanderbilt - not quite so roomy in the waist, but not bad at all. As for the bathing suite - I got a maternity tankini, which works brilliantly.

Good luck!


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