Hi, This is for basegirl, and for anyone else who is plauged with anxiety. I had my ileostomy surgery when I was very youn 15, and more than anything, I wanted to get back to real life. I didn't let thoughts, concerns, anxieties, get in the way.... Sigh.. Power of youth I guess.. I did things then, I don't think I would ever do again.
I'm 69 now l and over the last 3-5 years, one thing after another, medical and other events, created anxiety, that I just coulnd't control, and I developed PTSD. The feelings of fear, and anxiety were so foreign to me..... that I thought I was going crazy. I was afraid to just leave the house...
A therapist, and some medications, helped me through the very real issues......but I also had hard work to do, to control the emotions over time. One in specific, was to learn to stop the " thoughts" before the anxiety, palpittions, shortness of breath, and crying began. Not an easy task....but I did it, and continue to " do the work".
Shut off the " Longing for the things you can't have"....especially if they lead to anxiety and crying ( for me was the damaged relationship with my children) as well as all the physical issues that just kept happening.
When your/ my heart started to pound......or tears sstarted to fall......I started to do deep breathing... Irt's a habit now, and when I'm running late, or in the car, with traffic.....I deep breathe, out of habit... It's calming!!!!
Mindful meditations.... I found that listening to mindful meditations I found on youtube, i phone, are extemely helpful. There are dozens to choose from. Find a speaker you like ( I found Michael Sealy, Australian) and a topic that is really helpful.... Anxiety, sleep, etc. I was listening to one every night before going to sleep, and eventually, it put me to sleep. And if I woke up in the middle of the night, I just listened to another one.
Just like one does with a little child, afraid of going to sleep......one needs to chase away the " deamons" that interfere with your well being.. I'm no saying it's easy. It's probably the most difficult thing I've ever done....and I keep doing it, because just when I think I have a handle on it.....those disruptive, anxiety producing thoughts just crawl back in.
I'm Jewish, and never have been particularly " religious" in practice", but during the late night, when I couldn't sleep, I started to read the " Torah ( First five books of the old testament) portion of the week.. and the interpretation from alocal Rabbi. That was something that I only did at Temple services. Surprisingly, Ironically? I often found that the topic in the torah, helped me answer / or reflected feelings I was having. Like being hopeless, life was uninspiring, I felt that I had no " Higher Power, That no one cared, That life alone was getting me down..... Little by little, I started to look out of my own thoughts , to find answers to my own issues... Never a "holy roller", I now have new respect for looking for answers in the bible.....Old phrases, rang true, Give it up... " to God", You're not alone, started to have new meaning... The next thing I did, late a night, when I couldn' sleep, was find soothing music......religious or otherwise, that emotionally took me to a better place. Versions of Bridge over troubled water, did it for me, big time. We all have to find our own solutions......but try not to negate what others suggest, until you try them.... You never know.
Best regards to all..