If I may chime in:
I've had my colostomy for 15 years, and frankly, I've been the poster child for poor acceptance. Yes, I knew it saved my life and that I had no choice, blah blah, but I was 39 years old, and I believed my sexuality was destroyed and the fun was O-V-E-R!
I've had three relationships and I'm not sure who had greater issues with the ostomy, my partners or me.
However, at 55, when I had pretty much accepted the idea that I would never get comfortable with my "altered" self, I have met the right man and I'm having the best and most uninhibited sexual relationship of my life. I would never have believed this could happen. Honestly, for it to be "okay," I think it has to be with a truly mature partner who is seriously interested in you. Besides my colostomy, I have more scars than I can count from more surgeries than I can remember. None of my flaws seem to matter and I have never felt sexier.
I wish everyone the same luck. I sure never expected it to happen to me.
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