Emotional Well-being discussions

Hi all, just found this site. A bit bewildered as to what to say. 5 months in, wow, life-changing. You feel so alone.

It'll be 6 months from my surgery in 2 days, and up until now I thought I was dealing and adjusting with all of this pretty well. Then all of a sudden, out of the blue I wasn't! I don't know what triggered it, maybe planning on seeing some relatives this weekend I haven't seen in 40 years? The fact that I not only have 2 stomas, but also now developed a hernia the size of a small watermelon? W ...

IT’S GOOD TO TALK.

Whilst I was at work today.
I met a man along the way.
He did so want to talk to me.
And tell me of his ostomy.

Because this man is wheelchair bound.
Few proper listeners can be found.
Most people do not have the time.
To focus on this paradigm.

Most people do not understand.
The problems faced in ostoland.
So I spent some time with him.
...

I am 10 days post colostomy surgery, and I am really struggling. I am also battling ovarian cancer and thought I was doing really well until I ended up with a bowel blockage. I am used to being very active and now have another obstacle to overcome. My blockage was high in my colon so my ostomy is above my belly button on the left side. Basically, it's impossible to hide. I'm a golfer and they ...

Hi everyone
Now that Halloween is upon us, all the ghoulish posts are showing up on Facebook
My niece from the Carolinas, who I haven't seen for years, shared someone's post
Of a beautiful big orange pumpkin with a colostomy bag attached to its side, which is half full of pumpkin seeds
When I first saw it, I thought, "Hmmmmm, not very funny!" but after looking at it again, it made me laugh
I'm ...

I had my loop ileostomy since May 13th, 2021. I was supposed to have a reversal in November 2021, but for some reason, it became hard for me to ambulate well, so the doctors said I have to be able to walk to go to the bathroom before I can get a reversal. I'm 400+ lbs. It has gotten harder to move around; it feels like something is wrong on that right side. Stuck in the house with no one to ta ...

Hi group!!!
I'm a single woman. I have been pretty self-confident until "this" happened. I have a colostomy and a huge abdominal scar, and I am not adjusting to it. Surgery was in June 2023. I'm hoping it gets better as time passes, but I'm not feeling much better emotionally. I'm guessing these feelings are common with these surgeries. Yes, I try to be positive about it, but it's very hard. N ...

Are there any particularly helpful exercises that members have learned that they have found to be particularly good to practice in times of exacerbated stress?

In my particular case, I am finding the possibility of deep line feeding being a long-term outcome following a necessary reparative surgery to free a section of trapped bowel following a repair for a herniated bowel after traumatic ex ...

Weird but fun question… ready?… go!
Have you named your ostomy?
I named mine Frankie :)

Just need to vent a little: Going to hear some music down by a river town, which I love. Earlier, at home getting ready, I was just kind of thinking out loud, something along the lines of, "I hope our friends are staking a spot near the bathrooms." My husband said, "Well, I don't know, ask them to move. What's the big deal?" It really is so NOT a big deal, just one of those times when I realiz ...

How many people here suffer from depression since receiving their ostomy? A lot of people told me that I should be happy I'm still alive, which in some ways I am, but in other ways I am not. People also say it's a give-and-take; it gave me some of my life back, but it took away more than I thought it was going to. I always liked having someone in my life, and so far this ostomy has cost me my ...

Hey all, as per the title I'm at a bit of a low place right now. I've had my permanent stoma for 18 months now (I had a looped ileostomy for 18 months previously) and suffered yet another setback with a nice woman. My Crohn's and subsequent mass of operations ended my previous 7-year relationship.
I have taken my time in getting back into the "meeting women" scene as I have been very ill, and ...

My colostomy bag has been with me now for a year and a half. I stay home where I feel comfortable. How do you fly? How do you eat in a restaurant, the bathrooms are small and crowded? How many times a day does your bag fill up? I am depressed, how do I accept this? What do you do when you are with a group of people and your bag starts to fill up? I am not sure what kind of answers I am looking ...

Yes, my subject line is correct. Although I am quite depressed about my new situation (ileostomy), what has happened has been that my husband has had a terrible time dealing with it all. Leading up to the surgery, he was "the strong one" constantly reminding me "we can handle this together". I don't think he truly understood what a huge change in our life this would be, and he is definitely st ...

So I am new, just had surgery last week and been feeling down. Doctor said there is a good chance of being reversed so that made me hopeful. Thing I dislike is wearing a bag and how gross it is. And how my boyfriend is now supportive.