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The worst of times has got to bewhen first you find your ostomy.You can no longer hide awayit’s on your side and there to stay.
It shakes you to the very coreand makes you feel that you deplorethe very thing that helped you toavoid the brink and then pull through.
In those early days you’re stressedand easily become depressed.After your stoma comes along you start to ...

Hello everyone.
I just found and joined this site a few days ago. I wish I had discovered it sooner. So many helpful tips and hints that even the hospitals don't seem to know.
Anyway, with that being said, I begin the countdown to my ileostomy reversal.
Five weeks from today.
I know that sounds like it's far away, but in my head, it's coming fast and I have no idea what to expect.
A brief his ...

Hi,
First post on here so, please be gentle. I was wondering, has anyone found a way of keeping that darn bag out of the way when they are having one of their most intimate moments? I've used techniques such as holding it under a t-shirt, etc... What do you do? It just plain can get in the way sometimes...
Thanks in advance.

Hi. Just wanted to ask people, is it really possible to date when you have a bag? From things I have read on this
site, the answer is no. People say it's either too hard to tell people about the bag or they run for the hills once they find out. Don't get the wrong idea. I myself cannot think of dating again. I am having a hard time dealing with my own bag. But I wonder what other people think.

I named mine Sylvester Stalloma, he’s now my ring man fighting through this labyrinth called life.

for the most part he’s well behaved apart from the odd battle cry he lets out at 2am some nights, startling me into action in the darkness, I think he does it just to remind me that he’s still there fighting my corner.

This site seems to be gathering new members daily. Most newbies state that they love the site, it has great information and they are so greatful to find someone to talk with.
So as we approach the 5000 member milestone I propose an office pool to guess the date of the event. Their are 4806 member today.
The winner will get 1 slightly used Convatec pouch and a free cat scan. (my cat) ...

I would like to share tips, secrets, anything that helps intimacy be more alluring to others. Don't be shy, I need answers.

Hi - I have had an Ostomy for almost 2 years now (stage 4 rectal cancer). I thought I would become less angry over time about having to have the Ostomy, but I think my anger has only gotten worse over time.

Part of the thing that makes me so angry is that my health care providers (who are generally wonderful so this is not personal) all told me this would not be a big deal. The fact is, it ...

I just had to edit something here .. it was lacking important details from the original post. I am poking fun of my developing experience with online dating. as a bagger..dating outside of MAO.

The thought here is a stoma isn't the problem with people dating. My goal is to prove it while having some fun..and not regret a damn thing.

Hot topic here.. concerned about dating someone with ...

I live in a place where I can obtain medical marijuana. I find it helps with anxiety, pain, and occasional insomnia. Before you put it down, it's far better than alcohol, especially if you are taking other meds. Any thoughts?

Has anyone ever wondered why this had to happen to them? I've only had my ostomy since February, and I often think of what I could have done to avoid it. My life has been changed forever, and I am learning to cope with it. I don't like it, but it's better than the alternative. Just venting.

I am a 37-year-old, single mom of 3 and I am a colorectal cancer survivor going on 3 years now. I am dating and find it very difficult and stressful to try to tell someone I want to be intimate with that I have an ostomy. How do you tell someone? I would also like to know how can I hide or keep my bag from getting in the way during intimacy. I am so worried that I will never find someone who w ...

It is my understanding that quite a few people have given their stoma a name.
I have been thinking of that off and on since the time of my colostomy (Jan. 2015). I finally settled on one:
Krakatoa, like the volcano. It either spews output like crazy or is dormant for a long time, like up to 4-5 days at a time (even with many laxatives, etc).
How about you?

I've already come to the conclusion that the only possibility of becoming intimate with a lady is to make sure she has some sort of an ostomy herself. That's fine and understandable, though I wish the door wasn't halfway closed, knowing I will never be accepted by someone without one.
Yeah, I know, there are a lot of wonderful, sweet women out there who will understand. If you believe that, yo ...

Hi y'all....I thought I was dealing with all this just fine and then about a week ago, I started crying about everything! I am not a cryer and I feel so out of control and sad.
I made an appt. with a shrink but I even feel embarrassed about that. Only my kids and boyfriend know, haven't told my Mom or sister or anyone else.
Am I crazy?? Why am I crying NOW...7 weeks after it all????? HELP. ...

I feel the need to apologize to all you folks from around the globe who’ve looked up to us Americans because of our system of governing ourselves, caring for those in need and trying to protect the entire free world from the horrors of inhumane communities. I’ve been proud to be an American since I began to realize how wonderful we could be for ourselves and the entire world. We vo ...

Roe v. Wade, 410 U.S. 113 (1973), was a landmark decision of the U.S. Supreme Court in which the court ruled that the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution provides a fundermental "right to privacy" that protects a pregnant womans's liberty to choose whether or not to have an abortion.

Date decided:1973

Ruling court: Supreme Court of the United States

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My product representative and I have talked about product trends. He says that more ostomates prefer Velcro closures. My observation as a WOCN is that manufacturers (Hollister, Coloplast, and Convatec) may be underestimating how many ostomates prefer clip closures based on my interactions with people who have an ostomy.
Do you use a clip (the IGGIE clip counts!) or Velcro closure?

Thanks to all of of you for making yesterday a great day and for the next 4 years of MAGA. I knew you’d all come to your senses.

I've had great luck with the last two pouches I've applied. So much so, I had serious anxiety about changing the pouch this time. Well, last night I sprung a very small manageable leak, so my decision has been made for me.
I'll be changing out the pouch this morning after a shower, going horizontal this time so I can try out the first ostomy belt that has arrived. I got it on eBay and have had ...

Wow, am I glad it's summer! Love, love, love the weather! It's nice to get out and about! The only thing upsetting me is that I can't get my PICC line wet, and my little boy is 4 and I'm trying to teach him how to swim, but it seems nearly impossible not to get your arm wet. I recently got an infection in my PICC line, and the doctor who put it in (this was my 7th one) said it would be my last ...

We all wonder from time to time how many people are reading what we write on here. We know there are folks who don't post and then there are the regular posters. We also have no way to know how many members are still around or have left for greener pastures. So I'd like to find out in a snapshot just how many folks are active on here right now. I realize it's just a snapshot.........so her ...

I am almost 3 weeks since reversal date and all has gone well. Haven't needed pain meds for 3 days now and am sleeping on my sides again, so all that is big progress for me. The large gaping hole where my stoma was is closing up more each day. I have times where I am running to the bathroom to get there on time, but not always. I mostly feel in control but am comforted by being able to have a ...

I have had several people ask if my ostomy affects my sex life. What they are really asking is, does wearing a shit bag turn your husband off? I guess it's normal curiosity, but I feel like telling them it's none of their business. Of course, the answer is no.

Hi - Eight days ago, I had 15 inches of my colon removed and a colostomy placed due to severe diverticulitis with abscesses. It appears I've had this for a long time and it went undiagnosed, with my first bout in August of 2015. I almost died, they tell me.
Now I have this bag, and I'm overwhelmed.
Aside from being exhausted from major surgery, every twinge makes me anxious.
Has there been any ...

Hi, I've named my stoma 'Henry', does anyone else name theirs or am I the only crackpot?!! It's a kind of 'friend' who never leaves my side, and though I hate it, sometimes I'm relieved I have him when the tum gets watery for no apparent reason... mine blows while the 'Henry hoover' sucks... and in my experience most men are assholes (no offence guys!) so it had to have a man's name!!! Sometim ...

So for all of the female Ostomates out there, how hard is it to find a pair of jeans? I went Boxing Day shopping with my 24-year-old daughter and two of her friends (the same age as my daughter). We had a great time, but when we tried on jeans ($14.00 a pair), I was so upset that all they make are low-rise jeans. Well, when you have a stoma that is higher than where the jeans come, it's not ve ...

Hi,
I have had my ileostomy now for 7 years, and it's doing great, and so am I now after almost dying a couple of times before it. However, I have tried the dating sites and tried to meet people. I have tried not telling them right away and waiting until they get to know me a bit, and I have tried telling them right away. Every time, once they look it up, they run, and I never hear from them a ...

Hello, I started the irrigation process early this morning. I had everything that I needed with me, and for one strange reason or another, it did not respond. I placed the cone in my stoma, and lo and behold, nothing. What did happen was that the water would filter out while the cone was in and fell into the sleeve, but not all of it, 1.5 liters. I am hoping that this model will work for me. I ...

Hi all, in my search for a replacement barrier ring since Safe n Simple switched to a different manufacturer who is getting the formula a little different and caused me a leak, I've contacted several companies for free samples. I spoke with a rep from Coloplast today who said that rings actually can cause leaks, and he recommends using a convex bag with an opening that's right up against my st ...