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Hmmm...My very own blog. Cool Beans! 😃


It's such a wonderful site and I'd like to say "Thank You" to the fantastic people in charge. You're all truly wonderful and we're all grateful to you for the site you've created here and all the work you do. 

What should I blog about?? I was thinking about soulmates. I do believe they exist. How about you, what makes your list of traits for your soulmate? Please feel free to reply post me 😃


w30bob : Sorry Summer.....don't believe in soulmates. I think a significant portion of the population could qualify as a "soulmate" to each and every one of us if we find those with similar core values and personalities. Looking for something that doesn't exist can be very disappointing if you never find it, but I can see the solitude it would bring you if you felt you had accomplished such a daunting task. So have it.........if you've got a single soulmate out there then you guys need to find each other.....or you'll both be a bit bummed when it's time to punch out. But I do love your expression "cool beans"! I've got a best friend out in Illinois who always says that. Thanks for reminding me.........I need to call him! You take care, bob May 15, 2020
Bill : Hello Summerfan. Thanks for raising this interesting topic. It certainly got me thinking about what might constitute a ‘soul-mate’ for me. I must admit that I have never found such a person, but neither have I ever looked for one. ( In deference to my wife of over 50 years, I would say that we mutually muddle along together without any major hassles, even though we are both ‘independent’ in desires and outlooks.) What I have found is that some people share similar views and outlooks on life, which is all very comforting and reassuring that perhaps I am not as weird as I first thought. However, my overriding desire is to meet people who will challenge my perspectives and thereby enable me to reassess my theories and views on life. I do like folks who are fiercely independent, which often means that we only meet for a brief period before parting to go our separate ways. ( my wife being the exception to this) I have this concept, that there are lots of people out there, who are not ‘attached’ to another individual or social groups, and do not intend to ever be so. This might either be because of choice, or because they are marginalised by individuals and society. In the past I labelled them as ‘fringe-edgers’, and I found them to have some very interesting, independent and valid perspectives on and from the rest of the world. I suppose at a push, one might, at one level, describe them as ‘soul-mates’. However, out of respect for their own desire to remain independent, I would say they are just people whom I have met and enjoyed their company, for however brief an encounter. Best wishes Bill May 15, 2020
Past Member: Thank you Bob and thank you Bill, I agree with you both. I do believe soulmates exist, it's that I think want makes it so special is that it doesn't happen every day. I never mean to push my ideologies onto others, so I say this in open discussion, understanding that diversity is a blessing. Bill, I completely agree that a partner must challenge the each other. To grow and to see things in a different light among other things. Lucky Number 7 is such a great movie. The lady says that in the movie toward the end. "I need a partner that challenges me and pushes me to be a better person. Someone I can grow with. I think when two hearts are meant to be together, there's nothing as sweet as that. I know, I'm a hopeless romantic, it's something I've always felt for as long as I can remember. Glen Frey's CD "Soul Searching" is a great collection of tunes that really speak to me. It's things like that that show me my point of reference and I just can't shake it, Lol. I believe soulmates can be independent and still be soulmates as well. At the end of the day, I think it's having enough in common and enough differences that creates the variety and balance. May 15, 2020
bowsprit : Interesting subject the search for an Ame Soeur ( French for soulmate).Every time I thought I had found one, the relationship ended amid much sorrow and regret. I once heard Omar Sharif, the great lover, announce with much solemnity that pain and anguish follows love. He followed that up with a story about how an attractive young lady entered his hotel room and ordered him to make love to her at the point of a gun! A saying attributed to Buddha goes: " He who has one hundred loves has one hundred sufferings". Another saying: " Stop looking for your soulmate, start looking for your soul, mate. May 15, 2020
lovely : I think a soulmate can be a friend and not a lover. "A soulmate is someone that just gets you. It's a connection of minds, a mutual respect, an unconditional love and a total understanding. It's about being yourself and knowing, not only that person is following and understanding your thoughts, but is right there with you, side by side." May 15, 2020
Past Member: So true lovely, I couldn't agree more. May 15, 2020

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