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Craving

Posted by Angelicamarie

The definition of craving: desire for something. When I lucked up and found this site, I suppose that I was satisfying a craving that I had. That is, me searching for someone like myself, an ostomate. You know, someone that I can share my thoughts and opinions with, someone  who totally understand the things that we all deal with on a daily basis. The people who currently surrounds me don't have a clue about us and our challenges outside of my family. So I didn't feel comfortable telling them  anything about my condition.


I crave for my brother, who is no longer here and in fact was my best friend. I could tell him any and everything. Oh how I feel the void!! My mom once told me, "you're lucky if you find one friend in life," and how true she is. I do have one true friend that I've had the pleasure of knowing for 33 years. At times I crave for family and I'm blessed to still have my parents and two siblings. Although me and my siblings are not close, I still have them. I think of those who no longer have family left and oh how my heart aches for them!


I remember being at my great aunt's house and we both were staring out the window when my aunt commented on her neighbor named Mr. Murphy. She said, "he sure is a good looking man." I thought wow, she still look at men at her age, LOL. (she was 88 years old). I often wonder, is it because of craving that we all feel? Oh my goodness, there so many things I crave. Even a child craves. A child who has no siblings tend to have an imaginary friend. I don't know for sure but perhaps it's a craving for someone to play with them.


I crave for touch, sometime sex, food and other life pleasures. Sometimes I simply crave a hug good conversation.  Other times, just to be told that I'm not in this thing alone. I still have those cravings? Isn't that a strange feeling? 


 


Respectfully yours,


Angelicamarie


 

Comments:
Hello Angelicamarie. Thank you for another interesting and thought-provoking post. My own theory is that the concept can be split into two segments:- 'needs' (which are essential to life) and 'wants' (which are desired but non-essential). 'Needs' I put into three subcategories of:- 'FOOD'(which includes solids and liquids) - 'WARMTH'(which includes shelter and clothes if in a colder climate) and 'LOVE'( which includes companionship and many of the things you mention in your post) You describe it as a 'craving' and in a sense you are absolutely right because it is a natural instinct to seek those elements which will keep us alive. In modern societies most people have sufficient food and warmth but many lack the fundamental constituents of 'love', or are deprived of some aspects of it. The concept then becomes exaggerated in importance because the other two facets are catered for and we don't have to spend the bulk of our time looking for food and shelter as humans might have done at the beginning of their existence. I believe your mother was also right in that humans can often get by with just one good friend and I would add that when that friend is not available they tend to look desperately elsewhere to find a secondary source of satisfaction. Many people achieve this by befriending an animal of a different species such as a dog, cat, etc., which they believe will provide them the unconditional love which they crave. From my perspective, this is not a 'strange' feeling but a simple and natural response to a human need. Best wishes Bill
Gmorning Bill, thanks for sharing your theories. Have a pleasant day!! Angelicamarie


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